So, you've had your baby and you get the go ahead from your doctor to resume... ahem... relations with your partner. What if it hurts though? Will it feel the same? Will I be "loose"?
Honestly, it's unlikely that sex will feel any different than it did before you had your baby, shoot, it may even feel better! (Now, this is provided you did not have severe tearing, such as third or fourth degree tearing, which could understandably take much longer to heal.) You will not be loose, your vagina will be fine, you'll still "feel" your partner.
Often times labor can bring us closer to our partners. When they are our rock and never leave our sides while we are laboring, we grow more fond of them than we ever thought possible. Our love and affection grows for them and, of course, all of these things make for great sex.
The most important thing you can do is keep an open line of communication with your partner. Start slow and start when you are ready. That may not be when your doctor tells you you are ready. Some women are practically begging for "it" the day after their baby is born and will need tons of intimate touch until their bodies are fully healed. Others have no desire for sex and it could take much longer than 6 weeks for them to decide to go for it again. Both are totally normal.
Again, an open line of communication is key. If you aren't ready to take the plunge, that is okay. However, some men do not get it and need a lot of reassurance that you still love them and are attracted to them. They may need more non-sexual physical touch. Letting them know that you still do not feel completely healed may also help.
If you are feeling ready, your bleeding has stopped, you are all healed up, and your provider gave you the green light, then go for it! It may end up being the best sex of your life!
As most new parents know, the first few months of a new baby's life can be a bit of a blur. Between constantly waking to feed the baby, change the baby, rock the baby, and so on, it is nearly impossible to get a good nights sleep.
I want to hold the hands of the African-American community and Baton Rouge residents and tell them it will be okay. I want them to know I acknowledge their pain and their hope for peace. I want them to know that I support them because that is what you do for people in need. Even if you don’t know them or you cannot relate to their experiences that are not yours.
It's summertime! The kids are out of school, and if they are anything like mine, they are constantly go-go-go.
You read that correctly.
I do this work for the money. I am a doula with the goal to pay my bills.
So the time has come in my pregnancy where my exhausted self is tired of sitting back and watching the house fall apart around me, and I'm now motivated to get things ready for the baby.
You will not see us involved in Improving Birth rallies and other events people associate with trying to improve birth for women, but why? Because, while we believe advocacy definitely has its place, we do not feel it is a doulas job to be an advocate.
There is a picture somewhere of me holding up the doll that Christmas, looking at the camera like the completely ungrateful child I was.
There is a reason they call it labor, it is hard work and is very tiring. The absolute best thing that you can do when you start feeling contractions is REST.
So, you've had your baby and you get the go ahead from your doctor to resume... ahem... relations with your partner. What if it hurts though?
Like other moms, I have often felt completely consumed in the every day life of parenthood. Just trying to make it from one day to another and keep the kid alive and the house standing.